Video: Why Winning Doesn't Always Equal Success

Here it lifeincolour we count it a real privilege to walk alongside leaders in all walks of life (and all corners of the globe) to help them to flourish and thrive and become more of who they were created to be.

So when we came across this video recently, it’s no surprise it resonated.

Valorie Kondos Field knows a lot about winning. As the longtime coach of the UCLA women's gymnastics team, she won championship after championship and has been widely acclaimed for her leadership. In this inspiring, brutally honest and, at times, gut-wrenching talk, she shares the secret to her success. Hint: it has nothing to do with "winning." (Ted.com)

Valorie Kondos Field shares:

My first few seasons as a head coach were abysmal, and after putting up with my brash coaching style for a few years, our team asked me for a team meeting… And for two solid hours, they gave me examples of how my arrogance was hurtful and demeaning. Yeah, not yay. They explained to me that they wanted to be supported, not belittled. They wanted to be coached up, not torn down. They wanted to be motivated, not pressured or bullied. That was my time-out, and I chose to change. 

Being a dogmatic dictator may produce compliant, good little soldiers, but it doesn't develop champions in life. It is so much easier, in any walk of life, to dictate and give orders than to actually figure out how to motivate someone to want to be better. And the reason is -- we all know this -- motivation takes a really long time to take root. But when it does, it is character-building and life-altering. 

We love coaching leaders, to help them flourish and become true champions in life. It takes time, but the rewards are huge.

Do check out this video - it is well worth 15 minutes of your time.


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